Letting Go of Control

Running and chasing are both ways of controlling the connection. The person who is “chasing” is trying to control by getting the other to acknowledge the connection. They are afraid that if they can’t get through to the other person or if they leave the other to their own devices, that they will be forgotten.

The person labeled as the “runner” fears being seen and losing control of the situation. Not responding to the other is a way for them to feel that they are retaining control of everything. They fear the other person seeing who they truly are or getting lost in the connection.

When you chase your twin, you leave them no other role than runner. What would happen if you stopped chasing? Dropped expectations? Just stood still? Allow this situation to unfold on it’s own and see what happens.

Twin flames are an energetic connection. The more you let go, the more the other feels it and is drawn in. This energy is flipping back and forth between you all the time, whether you are conscious of it or not.

If you are chasing, there is only a push force. Have you ever stopped your role and just stood still? Did you feel disconnected from your twin? This is because if you felt them going through the pull towards you, you would go right back to chasing and flip the situation back.

Eventually, balanced is achieved. Neither pushing nor pulling. Just allowing. This is what spirit is helping twin flames with now. This can also be seen as a balanced masculine and feminine, or union, within. At this stage, control is surrendered.

One of you will have to go first. That usually means the so called “chaser”. You will have to be brave and let go of control. Let go of all your expectations.

When you chase, you tell the universe that you don’t trust this situation. You aren’t trusting that the universe has a plan for you. You aren’t trusting that there is a reason behind all you have been through. You aren’t fully allowing your growth to happen.

You are sending the message that you don’t trust your twin flame. Your vibration is saying, “If I don’t stay on top of this, if I don’t oversee my connection and my twin, this person is going to be lost to me so I’d better focus all my energy towards them so they will see me.” This is a fear vibration and will not manifest your union.

They are you. How can they ever be lost to you? If you don’t have faith and trust, in the universe, in your twin and in yourself, how can your twin flame? How can your twin flame release their fears and control if you can’t? Your consciousness is connected. Have faith that your twin is working hard to get back to you. I know you want proof of this but proof doesn’t allow for faith and faith is what this process is all about.

You are being asked to be brave right now. You are not seeing the whole picture. At times, spirit holds back the full picture because, let’s face it, often we are our own worst enemies. Something much bigger than you can imagine is unfolding in divine time. Let go. Take a leap of faith and trust that something is going to catch you. Because you need to move on. To union that is.

14 Comments on “Letting Go of Control”

  1. This is so BRILLIANT! So well said, so concise, so perfect! It really struck a chord with me….. I didn’t think of myself as a chaser (well, I did, but not “as bad” as all those other chasers! haha) — but when I read this perspective, it makes me realize that I have been chasing like hell it is just that I disguised it as “trying to fix him and trying to get him to see the real me”… in essence, blaming him. So of course he doesn’t trust me. Man! Hit me like a ton of bricks! thanks! it’s like I already knew all this, but the simplicity of the way you wrote it made it go deeper.

  2. wow, this is so true!! this last meeting of my twin i felt , that feeling of onness, tusting , that he is coming back!!!!! control a big issue!!! just untill recently, it feels so freeing

  3. Thank you for this. I already stopped chasing my twin recently after a year of being stubburn to what the Universe has been telling me all along.

  4. I agree and disagree. I’m at a place I am letting go he is even the right man for me. I’m letting god decide. You can’t have faith without full detachment from outcome. You get to a place you don’t care who you end up with. You want someone who loves you the same back in their actions because you love yourself. You are able to let go and grieve this person as if it’s over forever since you are showing the universe “I am ready for real reciprocated love” and let go of everyone in your reality who is not reflecting this. It’s painful to face these dark feelings of letting them go, but it’s what’s best. I want what’s best for me. I want love that’s shown to me back. I need a balanced partner, no matter who god chooses I deserve that and nothing less. If it’s not this person at all I’m happy with it because god knows better than me. As of now he does not match my desires at all as far as core things, like how he treats me. So it’s not a big loss if he never comes back because as he is he is not the right man for me. God may have another plan for us. He may go down a destructive path, make a poor husband in this life- you NEVER know. God knows what path is best for you for a reason you may not understand for a long time. We surrender all. Let go of the labels and fantasies because you will miss he boat and be stuck in pain forever without anything good manifesting- very sad so many stuck in that twin flame attachment and label.

    Faith is letting of it ALL go. As it’s over. Facing those dark places. Healing into wholeness. You can only heal into wholeness when you are ready to grieve losing them forever because you know true love is waiting for you once you take the self loving actions to let go of less than. People mistake this for romance. We hear time and time again, it’s only about you- your relationship with yourself and until you love yourself and let go of less- true love can’t come your way in whatever form god chooses for your journey.

  5. I have never commented on a post but this was so eloquently written, beautiful, and exactly what I needed. Thank you!

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