They are trying to break free of codependency and karmic contracts. How they view marriage is based on their parents relationship. Many are healing issues with their fathers. They don’t want to be their fathers because either their father wasn’t there, their fathers never validated them or their father didn’t treat their mother well. In order for them to make the needed changes in their life they are healing father wounds.
Others are worried about judgment from their parents, especially those strongly connected to religious institutions, if they were to end their current attachments or choose someone that their parents would deem unacceptable.
For those that are parents, this is doubly challenging because they have committed to being the parents they wanted but never had and can’t yet see how they can have the life they desire while still being the ideal they have in their heads.
As the DM works at opening his heart, these issues are coming up and will be a part of the 10/10 gateway. For the DM to open their hearts, it’s not just about your connection but healing all the painful experiences they have repressed for centuries. This is very hard work! They need to reach a certain level of clearing the repressed emotions so that they can break free of codependent patterns, most of which stems from parental relationships in this life and others.
Many DM are also feeling the increased connections of energetic unions and desiring the reconciliation but codependency and forbidden love programming is still creating resistance to fully separating from those connections for the time being. However, Saturn and the South Node will make their final conjunction near the Libra New Moon and once they begin to separate, then that programming will start being resolved for those DM ready for their next stage.
Divine feminine, you can help the DM by changing your own beliefs around forbidden love. This is programing that makes you believe it’s wrong to love your twin flame, or anyone, because of a manmade contract. It is not wrong to love someone when there are no expectations placed on the love and healthy boundaries are imposed.
Start by separating divine love from codependency or connections based on unhealed wounds. These are not the same things. Unconditional love seeks nothing from the other. Indeed, unconditional love, by its very nature, is unstoppable. The very fact that you can’t stop the feelings for the other person usually creates a lot of shameful feelings even if you aren’t asking the other person to leave their situation. It’s very strong programming but it needs to be let go as love is not something to be controlled by ego. We will never create healthy relationships on earth from ego. If you feel guilt about this love then your twin will also feel guilt.
This is where separation can help because that space that’s being created allows the other person to make decisions from their heart. There is no expectation or pressure from the other, just holding the space of love, surrendering to whatever the other decides in the moment. I say in the moment because situations change rapidly when energies balance and less triggers are needed. Often the universe arranges situations so that each will have to make their own decisions without the others influence so that codependence can truly be transcended on both sides.
Rejection and unrequited love is another emotion that must be looked at when it comes to twins in karmic situations. Do you feel rejected because your twin flame continues to choose their karmic relationship? The emotions of unrequited love coupled with societal pressure often leaves one in resistance, desperate to end the connection with the other because they are not being chosen. This is another situation that will bring up feelings of guilt and shame for loving someone. Underneath that energy is a desire to lash out and shut down because the experience of vulnerability is too painful. To open your heart to someone is not something to be ashamed of. If you want your twin to be vulnerable, you have to be vulnerable. That often means facing and working through rejection wounds. For true twin flames this is usually a momentary energy as after purging some part of the rejection wound, unconditional love returns.
There is often a lot of past life karma involved in these situations. Forgiveness is the fastest way to resolve it. If there is a lot of anger or resentment towards the karmic, try using my violet flame or ho’oponopono videos envisioning your twins karmic partner (or your own if healing is still needed). This can help transmute negative energies that might interfere with your ability to let go and allow the situation to evolve to it’s highest timeline.
Twin flames that meet when one or the other is married is possible the most difficult template to break. There are a multitude of different fears, programs and attachments that need to be healed and worked through. Marriage is never something to be taken lightly of course, but if a relationship has run its course and neither person is really happy or even one of the pair is not really happy, what is the point of trying to hang on for another ten, twenty or thirty years in sorrow just because one fears judgment or financial loss. It’s very tricky energy to maneuver through because the programing is so deep it’s very hard to see.
Twin flames are leading the shift from ego driven relationships to sacred relationships. From ego lead relationships to heart lead relationships. Becoming a sovereign being is not easy. It requires being tested by difficult situations. Those who volunteered for this have to deal with a many triggers but think of the magnitude of this change and the importance of that shift in creating true and lasting love. Have patience with your twin and the situations.
Lastly, trust and faith is so important during the upcoming three month shift between the equinox and winter solstice. Divine feminine, stand strong in your knowing. If you are feeling the union energies then you know it is just a matter of time before it materializes on a fully physical level. There is no need to push or pressure. It’s all unfolding according to divine will. The vibration of love and joy is what you want to send out to your twin right now. Trust them. They will take the appropriate steps, at the appropriate time, as aligned with higher self and the collective energy.