Running and chasing are both ways of controlling the connection. The person who is “chasing” is trying to control by getting the other to acknowledge the connection. They are afraid that if they can’t get through to the other person or if they leave the other to their own devices, that they will be forgotten.
The person labeled as the “runner” fears being seen and losing control of the situation. Not responding to the other is a way for them to feel that they are retaining control of everything. They fear the other person seeing who they truly are or getting lost in the connection.
When you chase your twin, you leave them no other role than runner. What would happen if you stopped chasing? Dropped expectations? Just stood still? Allow this situation to unfold on it’s own and see what happens.
Twin flames are an energetic connection. The more you let go, the more the other feels it and is drawn in. This energy is flipping back and forth between you all the time, whether you are conscious of it or not.
If you are chasing, there is only a push force. Have you ever stopped your role and just stood still? Did you feel disconnected from your twin? This is because if you felt them going through the pull towards you, you would go right back to chasing and flip the situation back.
Eventually, balanced is achieved. Neither pushing nor pulling. Just allowing. This is what spirit is helping twin flames with now. This can also be seen as a balanced masculine and feminine, or union, within. At this stage, control is surrendered.
One of you will have to go first. That usually means the so called “chaser”. You will have to be brave and let go of control. Let go of all your expectations.
When you chase, you tell the universe that you don’t trust this situation. You aren’t trusting that the universe has a plan for you. You aren’t trusting that there is a reason behind all you have been through. You aren’t fully allowing your growth to happen.
You are sending the message that you don’t trust your twin flame. Your vibration is saying, “If I don’t stay on top of this, if I don’t oversee my connection and my twin, this person is going to be lost to me so I’d better focus all my energy towards them so they will see me.” This is a fear vibration and will not manifest your union.
They are you. How can they ever be lost to you? If you don’t have faith and trust, in the universe, in your twin and in yourself, how can your twin flame? How can your twin flame release their fears and control if you can’t? Your consciousness is connected. Have faith that your twin is working hard to get back to you. I know you want proof of this but proof doesn’t allow for faith and faith is what this process is all about.
You are being asked to be brave right now. You are not seeing the whole picture. At times, spirit holds back the full picture because, let’s face it, often we are our own worst enemies. Something much bigger than you can imagine is unfolding in divine time. Let go. Take a leap of faith and trust that something is going to catch you. Because you need to move on. To union that is.